How to Love: Understanding What Love Is

Love Is

Understanding

How to Love

At the foundation of learning how to love one another is the idea of what love is. By every aspect possible we all have a different understanding of how to love because our perceptions and internalization of what love is varies so widely. In fact, so it seems, is why we become so wonderfully cheerful with one another as we fall in love with someone and begin to learn how to love them in the ways they are most receptive. We learn that she likes chocolate and hates to dance, and as a result she has turned down every man who has asked her to dance and paid attention to those who delivered flowers and candies to her. This learning how to love a specific person and gain their admiration through our learning and expression of love is often referred to as "THE CHASE!" We humans love the chase! We are seemingly built for it. So much so that as we become older and wiser we begin to accept the fact that we cannot CHASE everyone whom we may have affections for. Because at the foundation of it all if our individual understanding of what love is varies so greatly from that of whom we admire, then our understanding of how to show love may never match that person's receptiveness to that type of love. Although Mr. and Miss Right might be out there for you, the gift of love that you have to offer isn't for everyone! Remember, the love that you have to give is unique and special. Chose wisely!

Love, Gratitude, and Meaning Thank You

Love Is

Some of the dads that I know took the time to share with me the particulars of their Father's Day 2011. I had the pleasure of hearing a range of stories from breakfast in bed to a surprise vacation. It was refreshing to hear these stories because they all reflected a sense of love and gratitude for "Dad." This implies that these dads were good ones! Way to go Gentlemen!

But what was even more amazing was hearing these men speak of the gratitude and love they have for their families. So it so often seems, men might not be the best of the two genders at outwardly expressing emotions and feelings. Lots of men have been told that they need to understand how to better show love. However, it does not mean that those emotions and feelings are nonexistent. And the types of emotions and feelings that they expressed to me reaffirmed that showing love and gratitude through a simple manifestation of love such as breakfast in bed, or washing someone's car for them, puts even the toughest guy in a different frame of mind. Love is viral. And a day that honors a group or a person often promotes that person or group to express love, and keeps our focus on and about love.

The cherry on top of this sundae of love and gratitude was how many of these men said Thank You to their families. One dad proclaimed, "I had to look at my wife directly in her eyes so that she understood that I was really meaning thank you when I said thank you. This time, I actually meant thank you!" This was all promoted from a simple expression of love, and helps create a "cycle" of love being expressed within a family or between a couple.

There is no mystery in how to show love to others. I think we just need reminders and help along the way. Whether it takes national days of recognition, or, simply coming home to your loved ones, we need reminders. And these reminders bring us that much closer.


A Little Love Goes a Long Way When We Take Time to Recognize Others

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