About Love: How to Love When You Are Afraid To Love?

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We can spend our entire lives learning about love and how to love one another. But learning what love is and how to love isn't always easy. One of the many things that is difficult to grasp in life about love is How to Love When You Are Afraid to Love. It may seem silly that a person might be afraid to give and receive love to and from others, but I am of the opinion that it happens much more than we realize. The reasons are many, but often we have a difficult time giving and receiving love because of a fear that the love we give may not be enough, or we that we may not be able to appropriately handle the love we are given. Fear is often hard to overcome. I'm sure that you have an adult acquaintance or two that have a fear of clowns because of some experience as a child, and in all this time that have been unable to shake this fear. Love is so grand that fear of it can be just as long lasting. As a result, understanding How to Love When You Are Afraid to Love is not easy to do. Despite our natural tendency to want to seek and provide love, to know more about love and what is love, some people go through life never being able to shake this fear.

One thing that is important to realize is that despite fear of loving, the love that you provide those around you can be a gift. And the love that those around you provide you is a gift. Our daily interactions allow us to recycle this gift. What love is, in part, is a social emotional present that is exchanged by small and tremendous gestures and behaviors towards each other on a nearly minute by minute basis. And I don't know about you, but I like receiving gifts. And in the same, I like the joy that the gifts that I give provide those I show love to on a minute by minute basis. You let go of our fear by facing the clown head on. Don't let the clown hinder you from what love is all about. Instead, try with just one person to give the gift of love today. And bask in the feeling when the love is returned. And you will find something wonderful about love; it can make your fear about it go away because love is just that powerful.

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About Love: How to Love

How to Love

It is my opinion that most people become uncomfortable when they have to share about love. This may be because there are so many opinions on how to love that people are afraid they their opinion is the wrong opinion. As a result, people often clam up when it comes to giving advice or opinions about what love is. Consequently, some of the golden nuggets about love and how to love have gone unnoticed and unclaimed. The purpose of this blog is to notice and reclaim those nuggets.

Expressions of love can be simple and easy. Sometimes we get caught up in making an expression of love overly grand. Twelve dozens of roses is a wonderful thing, but it's neither simple nor easy necessarily. Sometimes, a small note to a loved one will cause the same stir of emotions. Often stating the positive things that you admire about a significant other is what helps them through a difficult day. And often, oh so often, the gift of a single piece of chocolate does the trick. We can learn how to love through simple and effective expressions. And the smiles, hugs, and kisses we receive in return keep the cycle of love turning.

A Little Love Goes a Long Way When We Realize What’s Simple About Love!
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I'm Sorry and I Love You

A Lesson in

How to Love

It is so interesting how hard it is for us as a species to say "I'm Sorry" or "I Love You." These two very powerful expressions of emotion have started and saved relationships throughout the centuries. But these two very powerful expressions of emotion, for some reason, are reserved internally to the degree that their utterance can stop a crowd. I would guess that the vulnerability that ensues when we say I'm Sorry" or "I Love You" is what makes it so difficult to say. It's the state of emotional nakedness that we submit ourselves to when we use these words that is so awkward. And especially, in public, most of us do not like to be naked.

However, when we open ourselves up to these emotions, and express them in actions and in words, we seem to always feel better, our heart pours out, and that burdened feeling is lifted. I am not sure that many of us regret telling someone "I'm Sorry" or "I Love You," even when the sentiment is unrequited. In fact, the last expression of many people as they are facing death is that they regret not saying "I'm Sorry" or "I Love You" enough in life. And not only do we feel better when we use these expressions, but it changes us, it changes the situations we are in, and changes the people that what say it to. And in the end, life is lived that much sweeter.

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Love, Gratitude, and Meaning Thank You

Love Is

Some of the dads that I know took the time to share with me the particulars of their Father's Day 2011. I had the pleasure of hearing a range of stories from breakfast in bed to a surprise vacation. It was refreshing to hear these stories because they all reflected a sense of love and gratitude for "Dad." This implies that these dads were good ones! Way to go Gentlemen!

But what was even more amazing was hearing these men speak of the gratitude and love they have for their families. So it so often seems, men might not be the best of the two genders at outwardly expressing emotions and feelings. Lots of men have been told that they need to understand how to better show love. However, it does not mean that those emotions and feelings are nonexistent. And the types of emotions and feelings that they expressed to me reaffirmed that showing love and gratitude through a simple manifestation of love such as breakfast in bed, or washing someone's car for them, puts even the toughest guy in a different frame of mind. Love is viral. And a day that honors a group or a person often promotes that person or group to express love, and keeps our focus on and about love.

The cherry on top of this sundae of love and gratitude was how many of these men said Thank You to their families. One dad proclaimed, "I had to look at my wife directly in her eyes so that she understood that I was really meaning thank you when I said thank you. This time, I actually meant thank you!" This was all promoted from a simple expression of love, and helps create a "cycle" of love being expressed within a family or between a couple.

There is no mystery in how to show love to others. I think we just need reminders and help along the way. Whether it takes national days of recognition, or, simply coming home to your loved ones, we need reminders. And these reminders bring us that much closer.


A Little Love Goes a Long Way When We Take Time to Recognize Others

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